Wednesday, 6 July 2016

Difret - Fighting Patriarchy One Powerful Story at a Time



I must admit, I am at a low point right this minute; my body mind and soul are screaming exhaustion and its not even 10am.

Most nights, I toss and turn at flashes of ideas, pending things in my to-do list that now haunt and occupy my dreams. I sleep late and wake up early, almost guilty for 'wasting time' resting when there is so so much to do and so little time. It sounds ridiculous and unsustainable but I am afraid that thats the current situation.

I enjoy the work I do but as we all know it is not always easy. Also, new developments! I am so happy to be back in University doing part time night classes. Even at the tail end of a busy workday my brain is absorbing everything I can - I keep having to virtually pinch myself in class to remind myself that my 16 year hiatus of studies has finally ended! I am soo excited!

More and more, into my journey of embracing feminist principles, I am in awe of how much I do not know. I have been transitioning from a default shrugging my indifference at everything, to opening my eyes widely and looking at things more deeply and thoughtfully. I am increasingly opening my mind to new ideas, to listen better and to unlearn the relics of oppressive systems that were a noose round my neck that slowly tightened.

In this discovery, I see the pervasiveness of patriarchy and other forms of oppression. I am increasingly aware of power and privilege; mine and of others. The blast of 'awareness' is daunting and overwhelming and many times it stops me in my tracks on where to begin to challenge these systems designed to keep in place the binaries of 'haves' and 'have-nots.'

Some times, I am unsure about the little voice in my head that says change has to start with me - why me?! You see my soul, body and heart and brain is constantly weary with the endless hurdles that are designed to deflate the spirits of the hardiest of souls... And the constant angst and fight for audience, for space, for resources, for air to just effing breathe! And some times that leads us to fight with ourselves, with each other...sigh...what a dizzying, spinning cycle!

And as I am contemplating these fleeting heavy thoughts I see that Difret, a movie I have been dying to watch is finally available on Netflix! I know from the trailer and the synopsis it is a familiar tale of the challenges girls and women face as we are subjugated by some of our cultures, norms and traditions. But thats not the only motivation for watching this film, I happen to know of one of the many (wonderful) people who did quite a bit to get the film off the ground...

The film is a deeply personal and moving tale that candidly delves into marriage abductions, forced marriage, societal misogyny... Difret's story is so riveting you stick through it to the end! And that emotional journey this powerful story has taken me through today has restored me and I have drawn strength from reserves I did not even know I had.

I know that many times after a thankless task of trying to shift the systems and attitudes (mine and others) towards more rights-affirming world, I feel like fighting patriarchy is like literally slamming yourself constantly on a wall...whats the point right?

Wrong.

Be that as it may be, we may not come out of that fight unscathed but one day that wall will crack and; a crack for me is reason enough. So that is what the film Difret has inspired me to feel today, Hope. Thank you for that.

Difret is fiscally sponsored by Truth Aid, a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization. All donations made to Difret’s education campaign are 100% tax-deductible. Help us take the film on the road in Ethiopia by making a donation to our rural screening tour.


Saturday, 11 June 2016

All of Me - All of us

I have been known to be truly moved; moved to introspection, action, silence, tears, joy. It is not every day though I have been moved to words..Especially nowadays where stories remain vividly raw, too real but yet largely unspoken and unwritten.

Pardon my clumsiness, tardiness and impertinence in capturing a slice of my reflections today:



Me we us
All of me
Pulses, sways, sings
Needs, takes, grabs
Fights, confronts, 
creates
Connects, 
Inspire.

Me I us
All of me,
Breathes, exhales
Desires, lusts
Touches
Reaches
Fucks, likes
Wants, loves
Burns, consumes
Falls, soars.

Me we us
All of me
Questions, worries
Cries, laughs
Learns, dreams
Hopes, open
Lives
Here 
Now.

Friday, 23 October 2015

This Monster we created called “Diplomatic Immunity” aka "License of Impunity" and IPV Prevalence in Kenya





There is this monster we bore and raised called diplomatic immunity that rears its ugly head many a time. Anytime it comes to play it is when the proverbial sh*t has hit the fan….

Recently I came across a disturbing new article that reported that #UNEP employee Alphonse Kambu based in Nairobi from Papua New Guinea who has been accused of physically assaulting his estranged partner Ruth Gakii on Sunday night at Jacaranda estate, as their three-year-old son looked on.

The United Nations Environmental Program - UNEP has expressed its willingness to assist with investigations into an incident where one of its staffers is accused of assaulting his estranged Kenyan lover and causing her grevious bodily harm. In a statement to newsrooms, the UN body has clarified that its employees are only immune from prosecution in actions or words spoken during the cause of their duty and not personal actions. The statement came even as police launched investigations into the matter, with doctors at the Nairobi Women's hospital revealing that the 26 year old woman identified as Ruth Gakii, is out of danger.

Not every case gets to hit the media’s radar and hopefully something useful and meaningful that ensures that justice here is served swiftly and decisively it also begs the question around the need to have diplomatic immunity if it is sued as a weapon to spread impunity. The statistics in Kenya are startling.

About 45% of women aged 15-49 have experienced either physical or sexual violence in Kenya. So much work is going on to shift this dynamic. For one, critical reforms are needed in Kenya’s public health sector to ensure we have well-paid, sufficiently staffed and well-equipped facilities in every county to bridge the disparity caused prior to devolvement of state functions. Currently the Kenyan health sector is plagued with strikes, go slows and lack basic workable updated equipment. It is also critical that every county have healthcare facilities that are proportionate to the population demographics ensuring that every Kenyan’s constitutional right to quality healthcare is met.

We must also push for heightened advocacy efforts around law reforms to ensure marital rape is not exempted from the Sexual Offences Act. Section 43 (5) , as IPV is very prevalent and insidious in Kenya.

That being said, it is hard to ignore the vile and misogynistic comments and sentiments shared on social media that fault those who fall prey to GBV. When we are talking about gangsters and thieves who prey on things that are not there own is our first sentiment,  “You shouldn’t buy stuff if you know it will get stolen!” We should create an environment that allows us all to have security and freedom to choose where and how we want to live and what we want to buy free of prettying, prying and sticky fingers…. that’s why we have laws! And these laws need to work for us and we need to continue to put pressure on government to ensure that people are safe and those who go against the law are punished swiftly. In the same way when it comes to violence, we cannot start this discourse around ‘what the victim out to have done/worn/said to ‘avoid’ such a violation of their person…. no one has the right to do that diplomatic immunity or not!

I also want to challenge those with the audacity to insinuate that ANYONE is deserving of violence. EVERYBODY has a right to live a life free of violence regardless of who they are.
So many sentiments on social media are down right victim blaming rather than focus on the issue here which is to ensure that justice is served and we are all assured that violence meted out on another will not go unpunished! It is in itself another this kind of violation which is barbaric that only serves to push a lot of people (both men and women) who face similar maltreatment further in the margins as they feel as they did something wrong or are responsible for the violence they are subjected to WHICH THEY ARE NOT!!! The only person who is wrong here is the one who thought he or she could wield power by causing physical, mental harm or threat of it over another. That is the wrong here. Period.

On the other, the push back from Kenyans who see the injustice in such cases and are lobbying and calling for the perpetrators to be held accountable is a good sign that we recognise that GBV has no place in our society and that violence in public or in private is a violation of rights and this must end!

Tuesday, 20 October 2015

Technivism and a Random Paragraph About Shoes





L-R: Me, Melissa - MAVC, Mercy BHESP, Maya & Hannah - Tactical Tech and Nida - MAVC
I got to know (and love) Tactical Tech in 2013 - its  a great non-profit organisation that advances the use of information and digital technologies used by advocates and activists worldwide. I particularly love and subscribe to the very cool toolkits they have developed for activists and NGO's around how to take stock of their advocacy or activism work and their digital security (or lack of it for that matter). I particularly love the Security-in-a-Box Toolkit with a multiplicities of cool tips and tricks on internet and web vulnerabilities that we encounter in daily tech lives as activists.

I recently took part in a discussion and sharing of research findings that Tactical Tech undertook with the Kenyan LGBTI community (with support from a very cool organisation called Making All Voices Count Fund.) The study is called The Möbius Strip: How LGBTQ Kenyans use technology to negotiate visibility and anonymity


Here is an excerpt of the summary of the study:


"Technology in enabling development (often referred to as ICT4D), activism and in transparency and accountability initiatives (T4TA), are the subjects of new interventions and innovation......However, they aren't the users of T4TA initiatives as recent research by the Institute of Development Studies suggests; that it is the 'usual suspects' who are most likely to engage in these kinds of technology projects, that is, usually middle class, educated men who are part of the social mainstream. What are the factors that limit the use of technology by marginalised people? And, if so, what are the possibilities for overcoming them? How do these factors manifest across lines of class, gender and sexuality?...."

It was interesting and unusual to get this feedback. I now realise just how many studies and research tend to be conducted in global South on women's issues or key populations from all corners but none of them make good of the pledge to report back its findings once the study is concluded. I would particularly like to laud Maya Ganesh and Hannah Smith from Tactical Tech for making this pledge good by scrapping up tight resources to come back to those who informed their study. I also felt that the quorum for this session could have done with more participants from the Kenyan community, especially those who were involved in the actual study but then again, I am sure like me, they would not have expected follow through of involving all stakeholders in a study beyond pure 'extraction' for information involvement. Kudos to Tactical Tech for setting a great standard.

One interesting element I took away from the discussion was the need for more technology support, resources and infrastructure for 'dumb phones' rather than the constant push and pressure for new, for innovative and 'very smart' ICT... Overall, there are close to 4.5 billion world phone subscribers, meaning that nearly 65% of the world’s population has some sort of phone which isn't smart (thus the word dumb :-) )...So who exactly are we trying to reach if we are always looking for newer, sleeker, tech-ier ways to connect the world?! I also feel that we totally downplay 'old techie' like radio as ways to engage wider audiences around advocacy, awareness building and activism efforts. There are over 2.4 billion radio receivers and over 51,000 radio stations worldwide. At least 75% of global south households have access to radio.  We need to ensure that the evolving of our activism and the use of techie to anchor this work carries the old and new; If we do this we are likely to bridge gaps of information, access and build a more meaningful discourse and engagements around human rights work locally and globally.

This week we have a huge converging of Techies and human rights activists in Sweden attending the Stockholm Internet Forum 2015. Hopefully the meeting is useful in making more connections, sharing, learning but also taking stock of the old and the new! I look at old and new techie like shoe shopping, some of us can't wait to dump our trusty old shoes into the shoe box and leave the store with spanking new ( !!!and not broken into!!!) shoes....I just hope we do not entirely lose the gains and traction drawn from old by getting distracted solely (ok that was a cheeky pun slotted there) with the new innovations around ICT!

Have a great tech week! Like your shoes, embrace ALL your tech be it old or/and new!

Highlight of my Week! The Inaugural Tamasha Festival in Nairobi featuring Eric Wainaina, Muthoni the Drummer Queen, Shishani among others!!!












Sometimes you have those weeks when you have nothing to look forward to...well, this week isn't one of them! A random public holiday on a Tuesday to mark Mashujaa Day was pretty awesome....Monday became the new Friday..TGIM..lol at least this week that is...

Well another amazing thing to look forward to is the Tamasha Festival which  is a biennial celebration of Africa and African media makers in the mediums of film, photography, music and literature. In 2016, the festival will bring together creatives from across Africa and the greater African Diaspora for a series of performances, workshops and conversations around the arts. 

The Tamasha pre-festival showcase will host some of East Africa's most inspiring, trendsetting and innovative artists as a launchpad to the main festival in 2016.
And so if you are like me, you have bought your Advance Tickets and saved some cash! If you havent please do that right away via MOOKH for Ksh. 800: https://goo.gl/ezg2Pj (Pay via MPESA or Card).


Gate Tickets @ Ksh.1,200

Join the conversation on Facebook tamashafestival, Twitter @TamashaFestival and Instagram using #TamashaPreFest to get real time updates on featured artistes, tickets and how you can GET INVOLVED.



Looking forward for an action packed weekend!

See you there or be a square!

Peace!

~Siki~

Wednesday, 3 September 2014

My Fight is My Dream

I was having a conversation with a friend on our personal and collective ideas around belief, religion, and traditions. Reflecting back, I marvel how much we humans are so preoccupied by the way we do things, how and why, and for who and for what?! It is as though these thoughts really take a large proportion of our time and preoccupation. Well, for me at least and perhaps more than I would care to admit…

And so today, I am pondering about my ideas, around my sense of purpose and the things I think that I am meant to achieve in this life. As I dwell on this and draw a quote from a rather famous Kenyan Oscar winner who said, “.. our dreams are valid.” I am curious to know how much of what we hope and dream for can weave into every day talk of our life’s purpose and ambitions.

 To read the full story click on: http://standbyme.rnw.org/content/my-fight-is-my-dream/

Of Conformity, Boxes and Bodies......

The following is a talk I had on 31st July 2014 in Amsterdam Netherlands. I


Melissa Muthoni’s on choices in Kenya


Melissa 'Celebrate Freedom Summit 2014' Credit RNW/Michiel Bles